Describe one positive change you have made in your life

People aren’t as important as you think

A positive change I’ve made in my life is to stop giving people importance.

Through life, I’ve learned that people who I thought were good people, aren’t, and people I had respect for, turned out to have a whole lot of gossip to say about me behind my back. A lot of people do a whole lot of pretending. So being the inquisitive person that I am, I thought to myself, why should I care about people who obviously either don’t really care about me or are trying to just use me? There’s no reason for me to waste so much energy on people who have the audacity to conjure up bad things to say about me. So since, I’m such a horrible horrible person, I’m going to just Brexit. And that’s what I did. I stopped communicating with everyone and made it my point to not have relationships with anyone and just keep everything superficial. Full stop … and it was the best change I made in my life.

Peace of Mind

The quietness of headspace was the best change I received once I cut people off. The tranquility of just not caring what people said nor thought of me (because they’re probably pieces of shit themselves) was the ultimate reward. The freedom of doing things without caring about Negative Nancy’s or Debbie Downers throwing monkey wrenches in my ideas, gave me the momentum I needed to push forward with what I wanted to do with my life. Oh, you think I shouldn’t do this because of what? That’s cool, but I don’t care. Thanks for the footnote though. And then I quickly forget about their input, on purpose, and if possible, never speak to them again. My mind chatter is quiet since I don’t have the concerns of others swirling around in my head, and I’m the walking definition of “unbothered”.

Seeing People For Who They Are

Some people say it’s a bad thing to judge people, but to me, judging people helps me see people for who they are and lets me know if I should waste my time with them or not. Cutting people off, helped me focus more on the company that I do decide to keep. I became more aware of red flags such as the clothing they wear or they mention they’re unemployed, or how anytime they talk about a situation they were in, the situation is never their fault and is always someone else’s, but the common denominator in all their escapades is them. When I’m speaking to people, I’m always scanning for things like that now. And a lot of times, most people are pieces of shit, but they just don’t know it and when I call them out on it, they sit there and claim that they’re not the kind of person that I told them they were. All while still doing the things, that make them the schmuck that they are. For example, a guy told me how great of a guy he was because he spent money on his girlfriend, and when I told them they were a womanizer, they claimed they weren’t. Then not even seconds later within the same breath, they told me they were dating 3 different women and was intimate with all of them and laughed about it.

Saves Money

There are people who have no money but still try to hang out with people who have money and expect them to pay their way. I haven’t ran into this since high school, but I know there’s still some adults who do this. Cutting people off also weeds these kinds of people out of your life. If you’re broke, stay home and don’t become someone else’s’ financial burden.

Keeps Drama Out of Your Life

It has always astounded me how some people love to surround their lives with drama. Everything is always a problem to them and they just simply can’t survive a minute without making the environment spicy. I have never been a fan of drama nor gossip, so I don’t participate in either, however, I know a few people who love to keep people who are nothing but walking liabilities in their circles who literally look for pots to stir. Cutting people off, eliminated these kinds of people from my life. They offer nothing constructive but stress, potential jailtime or court fees. You would think these kinds of people would grow out of this high school behavior, but they haven’t and that’s either because no one told them to stop, or they’re just addicted to adrenaline. Once I see a person always has some wild story to tell, red flags go off in my head that this person is probably a Drama Bot 5000 and I stay away.

Home Is My Sanctuary

Some people think it’s cool to have visitors over their house, but not me. I don’t even tell anyone what my address is. Cutting people off also means disassociating myself from them physically as I don’t give out my address because I don’t want anyone over. Period. Upon doing this, I feel calm and tranquil at home. There’s never the issue of someone popping up and if my door bell rings, then I know it’s someone I don’t know who shouldn’t be here. My home is quiet all day and is my haven. Everything I love is here. If I feel like engaging people, then I do it outside and can end the moment once my social battery has run out and go home to my sanctuary.

Do Not Disturb ⛔

There’s nothing more satisfying than my phone not ringing. The only calls I get are from my family, important calls from businesses and my boyfriend and that’s it. I don’t need a whole bunch of people calling me and I’m not one for small or casual talk about nothing. I used to be that way but it became exhausting, as a result, I now don’t want to talk to anyone at all unless it’s something super important.

By lessening the importance most people have in my life, and focusing on myself, cutting people off has been one of the best changes I’ve ever made. Some people can’t live without the attention of others, but I’m finding it satisfying and mentally rewarding. I only have one bestie and a boyfriend, both who I’ve known since childhood, and that’s all I need in my life. They know not to bring any drama to me because they’ve known me most of my life and know it will be met with resistance.